It is easy for excited brides to get so wrapped up in planning their dream wedding that they quickly forget the fact that it is going to be their partner’s special day too. Many grooms will take a step back throughout the planning process, even if they do wish to give their input. Often, it is up to the bride to ask for their opinions and to find ways to include them and ensure that the big day is a joint effort. Here is some advice for getting the groom more involved from the get-go.
Assign Him One or Two Important Tasks
Show that you trust him by giving him complete control over organising one or two tasks, whether it be organising the catering or selecting the live entertainment. Give him deadlines and some basic advice, so that he doesn’t end up ordering mac and cheese instead of a formal wedding spread or hiring a magician instead of a string quartet. A great resource to use when looking for live bands for weddings is Alive Network:
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Listen to His Ideas
You have probably been thinking about what you would like your wedding day to be like since you were six years old. However, it is important to make an effort to listen to your partner’s input too. You never know, he just might have a few amazing ideas to share. An open mind is key!
Complete Your Wedding Gift List Together
This one is important. The wedding gifts that you receive from your guests will be the items that you use to start your new life together, hence the reason why they should be items that you both need, want, and love.
Let Him Plan the Honeymoon
If you just can’t relinquish control in terms of the wedding ceremony and the reception, why not give him the opportunity to plan and organise the honeymoon? He is sure to find this task a lot more enjoyable than party planning. Plus, it will free up your schedule so that you are able to spend more of your time focusing on perfecting the special day.
Put Him to Work
Are you making your own centrepieces? Perhaps you have decided to DIY your decorations? Now is a good time to put your partner to work! Most men love being handy and productive, and he may feel much more adept when it comes to this sort of thing, as opposed to planning a party. If this is the case, you will be able to capitalise on each of your strengths without anyone feeling left out.
Ask for His Say on The Guest List
Make sure that he is given the opportunity to invite whoever he wants, even if there are a few people included who you wouldn’t invite if you had your way!
While it can be challenging to rope him in at first, when the wedding is a mish-mash of both him and you, as well as a true embodiment of your love, you will be so very glad that you did.
